The couples who have come to my classes together usually do so because they want to learn some skills in stress reduction. They view MBSR class as a way to learn a skill, like tennis classes can be a way to learn a skill. If the tennis analogy worked, then both partners could learn the skill at the same time and that would be a nice addition to their relationship. In my experience, this is not a good way to view MBSR training. A better analogy for MBSR class is a kayak trip. It is a journey where you might learn some good skills, but it’s not really book-style-learning. In a kayak journey, each kayaker is faced with all kinds of water terrain, and needs to figure out a way to handle it. For some types of water, it’s best to be in an individual kayak so you can make personal choices and be in control of your own boat. If a couple chooses to paddle down a river in a double kayak instead of taking two individual kayaks, both people might have a ...